Self-Coaching - The Basics

The Self-Coaching model is one of the foundational tools that is taught at The Life Coach School, which is where Sue received her training and certification as a professional life coach. The basic concept is based in universal truths that have been around a long time that are organized in a very simple, direct method that makes it possible to manage our lives effectively. It is a way of looking at the world and organizing your brain around it, which we call The Model. This is what it looks like:

The basics of the model are simple and clear. They include C-T-F-A-R:

Circumstances are factual. Strictly the facts. No drama or opinions, please. They are neutral

Thoughts are the thoughts that you have about the circumstances. What you are making the circumstances mean. Opinions are included here.

Feelings are vibrations in our body. One-word descriptors: happy, sad, excited, anxious.

Actions are driven by our Feelings. We will act, react, or not act based on how we feel.

Results are determined by our Actions. What we do will always create our results and they always work to prove our initial thoughts.

C…Circumstances

T…Thoughts

F…Feelings

A…Actions

R…Results

Any problem can be categorized into The Model. That is the beauty of it. No matter what is going on, it will fit into the model quite easily.

Once something has been placed in the model, we can see more clearly which thoughts are causing our feelings and actions.

Our brain will always want to prove something to be true. It will look for evidence that supports whatever it’s thinking. It wants to be true and right. The model shows this.

Our results will always provide evidence that supports our thoughts. To put it succinctly, our thoughts create our results, always.

Are you willing to be wrong? By challenging our thoughts and being open to the possibility of being wrong, you will be willing to adopt new thoughts. You will be willing to think differently about yourself, which will allow you to feel differently, act differently and ultimately produce new and better results for yourself.

This is where I come in. I am trained in helping you put this model into practice. I have a keen ability to help people see what they aren’t seeing for themselves. I am able to help you get to the root of what is going on, and very quickly change it up in ways that will actually serve you better. Sometimes it is just a simple little tweak and we get to amazing results you didn’t think were even possible. (It’s the coolest thing I have ever done in my life..to help people get freed up and get the lives that they’ve always wanted.)

Sue Nelson