Rule #1 for a better life: DON'T TAKE THINGS PERSONALLY!
Nothing others do is because of you.
What others say and do is about them.
When we take things personally, we are agreeing with what others have said.
When we do not agree, the things that others say cannot affect us emotionally.
When we understand that it really isn’t any of our business what others think about us, their words or behavior cannot affect us.
When someone yells at you, gossips about you, harms you or yours, it still is not about you! Their actions and words are based on what they believe.
Our personal belief system makes us feel safe. When people have beliefs that are different from our own, we get scared, defend ourselves, and try to impose our point of view on them.
When someone gets angry with us it is because our belief system is challenging their belief system and they get scared. They need to defend their point of view. Do not become angry, create conflict, and expend energy arguing when you are aware of this. Use your energy for something useful. Like loving or contributing to the world.
Practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is a promise not a feeling. Forgiveness is a commitment not to use the past sin against them . . . or yourself!
Apologize. Apologizing doesn’t always mean that you are wrong and the other person is right. Apologizing can mean that you value your relationship with them more than your own ego. And it feels so much better. Love is always an option.
*Lesson learned from Don Miguel Ruiz – The Four Agreements and, of course, the gospel of Jesus Christ.