How do I help my commitments THRIVE?

Did you know that commitment thrives when it is not attached to an outcome?

The results in our lives are determined by our commitment to who we want to BE in life, coupled with our willingness to act accordingly, no matter the circumstances of our lives.

 When we are being our commitment, we don’t get knocked off our game if an outcome is different from what we anticipate. WE GET TO BE who we are committed to at all times. And when we aren’t, we get to clean it up and create our word newly. In my world, it’s called repentance.

 When we are dealing with difficult people in our lives, our human condition will want to judge and tell us that it is the OTHER person’s responsibility to clean themselves up. Guess what? That is none of our business.

 Sure, make requests all day long! And remember, the only person we can control is ourselves. Why hand over our power to someone else, who is the least likely person at the moment to take care of it?

 Check out the unintentional thought model: (CTFAR)

  • Circumstance- Someone says something that most people would interpret as critical, rude, or condescending.

  • Thought- They are a jerk

  • Feeling- Resistance

  • Action- I avoid them. I make them wrong in my eyes. I justify my position. I gossip about them.

  • Result- When I do these things, I act like a jerk.

 Something happens. We have a thought. That thought creates a feeling. Our feeling drives an action. Our action creates a result. Our results are ALWAYS proof of our original thought...and our “R” line is NEVER about anybody else. Our result here? WE end up being a jerk.

 Let's change it up! Now you can CREATE how you want to show up with an intentional thought model. (CTFAR)

  •  C- Someone says something that most people would interpret as critical, rude, insensitive, or condescending.

  • T- Of course they would say what they said. That is how they see the world and it is what it is.

  • F- neutral

  • A- I get to BE who I am committed to being. I love. I show up. I forgive. I share possibility without it being hooked to an outcome.

  • R- I’m Mother Theresa. (haha. Just kidding.) I am showing up as who I am committed to being.

And I am left with a GREAT question to ask myself.

Do I want to be right or do I want a relationship? 

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Commitment LIVES when it isn’t attached to an outcome. It’s reflective of the world around us if we will only take a little broader look at life.

Commitment LIVES when it isn’t attached to an outcome. It’s reflective of the world around us if we will only take a little broader look at life.

Sue NelsonComment