Love is simple. It just is. So how do I give it to myself and my family?
Wouldn’t it be freeing if we could actually consider that love could just look like love? That we don’t have to qualify it with adjectives that layer on connotations that infer there are other options?
If there is “unconditional” love, then there must also be love with “conditions,” right?
“Conditional love,” Hmmm.
Think about it. Is that even a thing?
Isn’t it also interesting to consider that the imperfection of what it means to be human is, in fact, actually perfect?
Maybe it’s by design. Humans. On the planet. Having a human experience. Isn’t that what life is supposed to look like?
And if being human is supposed to look like it does, could we consider that being imperfect is part of the plan?
I think it is.
I think we take ourselves way too seriously all of the time. What if we could just look at ourselves, and how we show up, and be less dramatic about the whole thing. Almost like we could take life on as a bit of a game. Where we know we’d like to win, and actually playing the game is where the fun can be. With all of it. The energy, the angst, the joy, the fails, the triumphs. It’s all part of it. And all of it is perfect.
A few years ago, a friend shared a beautiful quote with me and I love it. Maybe you’ll like it, too. Maybe it will give you peace in knowing that you’re not perfect and it’s o.k. None of us are. And when we aren’t we can still love each other.
You've got it all wrong.
You didn't come here to master unconditional love. This is where you came from and where you'll return.
You came here to learn personal love.
Infused with divinity.
Lived through the grace of stumbling.
Demonstrated through the beauty of... messing up.
You didn't come here to be perfect, you already are.
You came here to be gorgeously human. Flawed and fabulous.
And rising again into remembering.
But unconditional love? Stop telling that story.
Love in truth doesn't need any adjectives.
It doesn't require modifiers.
It doesn't require the condition of perfection.
It only asks you to show up.
And do your best.
That you stay present and feel fully.
That you shine and fly and laugh and cry and hurt and heal and fall and get back up and play and work and live and die as YOU.
― Courtney A. Walsh
The only thing I would add to Courtney’s beautiful words is to allow others to show up, too, to do their best, even if their best isn’t what you would choose or expect. I do believe that all humans are doing their best at any given moment. I don’t think anyone really plans on being a schmuck. Sometimes their best just isn’t that great. And it’s o.k., too. They’re human, here, having a human experience as well.
All there is for us in that moment is to show up. Be inspiring. Be loving. Make requests. Create possibilities and step into them. I don’t believe that anyone can walk away from being judged and criticized with a sense of being inspired, let alone wanting to change anything.
What it all comes down to is being at peace with what “is.” I learned many lessons about this from Eckhart Tolle. “Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Whatever you fight, you strengthen, and what you resist, persists.”
He also shares, “Always say “yes” to the present moment. What could be more futile, more insane, than to create inner resistance to what already is? What could be more insane than to oppose life itself, which is now and always now? Surrender to what is. Say “yes” to life — and see how life suddenly starts working for you rather than against you.”
This is where it all begins, my friend. Living a life free of drama and open to creation.
When you can get to a place where you can accept life as it is, it actually puts you into what I call the neutral zone, where there is no resistance. And when you can get there, anything and everything becomes possible.
I know this may sound a little impossible, but it is. Trust me. Give me 8 weeks and your life will not look the same. You’ll be free.
Schedule your free session with me to find out exactly how to implement this in your life. It’s done in a very simple, 5-step process that I am passionate about sharing with the world.